Mar 08
Matt

Matthew Weinger

I moved to suburban Detroit from out of state toward the end of fifth grade, when I was ten years old.  I found myself as the much maligned new kid amongst 75 or so children who’d been together since kindergarten.  What easily could have meant disaster for my self-esteem instead became a love affair with my new friends.  I was almost immediately embraced, welcomed, and included by Micah and his peers, a group known as the Circle of Friends.

It turns out that being the new kid is a blessing in disguise.  I’m sure Micah at the time thought little of what he had done.  But look, that’s the whole point!  To him I was merely a new friend.  A quick display of friendliness and compassion on his part meant the entire world to someone else, that being me.  I won’t ever forget that day…Circle of Friends more than opened my eyes; it opened my heart and opened my mind.

I no longer see the world the way I used to see it.  No more cool kids and weirdos or jocks and dorks. No more retards.  Micah, his family and his circle have taught me to view and accept people as individuals without classifications.  Just because someone stutters doesn’t mean they aren’t worthy of conversation.  A blind man would certainly enjoy being read aloud to.  Someone who can’t run so fast may still get satisfaction from being a member of a track and field team.  A child who has poor penmanship could well be a magnificent writer.  Luckily, the standards by which society measures people are evolving, if ever for the better…

Thanks to Micah and his Circle of Friends, I feel as though I am a better friend, a better person, leading a better life.

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Feb 23
Mike Boyd

Mike Boyd

I met Micah in the first grade, and that day we met will stick out in my mind for the rest of my life.  You see, my desk was kitty-corner to Micah’s, and Katie’s (still one of my best friends today) was right next to his.

One day we were all sitting there at our desks, and Micah got sick, real sick.  It ended up on his desk, my desk, Katie’s desk and so on; I think you get the point.  Just about every single person in the class started laughing and saying “sick, ughh,” but I didn’t.  At that time I had absolutely no clue who Micah was, but that was not the point.  I didn’t know Micah had what some may call a disability or wasn’t able to read or write like most of us were learning, to me he was just like everyone else.  To this day I feel the exact same way, he is just like everyone else…different.

No, Micah can’t read as fast as you can, but when you read something to Micah he will remember it better than you will.  That is what I wanted to explain my whole entire life to people who look differently at Micah.  They see this kid, and some just don’t want to give him a chance, but Micah has made me want to succeed.  My whole life he has looked up to me, acted like me, and in no way could I ever let him down.

After first grade we didn’t really meet again until third grade when Circle of Friends was started.  Circle of Friends was an after-school program created to give students an opportunity to interact with Micah.  Each year a different group got to hang out together, but each year is was the same idea, to have fun.  We did many things such as community service, visited a local tv news broadcast station, went to sports events, and so on.  We met at least one time a week after school to discuss with the school social worker things we felt Micah was doing good with and things we felt he needed to work on.  After the talk we went on to eat, play, and have fun with one another.

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Feb 17
Micah Fialka-Feldman

Micah Fialka-Feldman

My name is Micah. I am 25 years old and I want to tell you about my life and my dreams.  In first grade I was in a special ed classroom because I had a cognitive disability.  I was not in the same room as my friends.  After about four months, I told my parents, “I want to go in the same door as my friends.”  That was my first dream for myself.

My parents listened to me. They helped me to get my dream to come true.  I was moved into the class where all of my friends were and I stayed with my friends all the way through high school.  It was cool. My friends helped me and we had fun. Sometimes they would write down what I wanted to say in my journal because I didn’t write. I had a great Circle of Friends and we did fun things together during recess and sometimes after school.  Some of them are still my friends now.  I got help from my teachers too.

In high school, I still went to the general ed classes.  I learned other ways to do some things. Because of my disability I don’t write. I have a lot of sight words, but I don’t read like most of my friends. I use special software like “screen reader” which reads whatever is on my computer screen. I also use Dragon Naturally Speaking ®. I talk into my microphone and the words I say go on the screen. I can read and send my own emails. I can learn a lot by using the computer. All kids like me should know about these things.

Since 5th grade I was a part of my IEP meetings (Individual Educational Planning). My friends would come for the first part to talk about what they thought I was learning.  Sometimes I did a power point of my dreams and what I wanted to learn in school.  It was cool to have my friends at the meeting because they had good ideas to help me. They didn’t stay for the whole meeting., they thought it was kind of boring!!!

In high school, my parents wanted me to run cross country. At first I didn’t like the idea, but I got use to it.  I could only run about a block in my freshman year. When I was a senior I ran 2 miles in 23 minutes.  I was proud….and tired.

I still learned a lot in high school. Sometimes I didn’t write a paper but I would interview someone on a topic and video tape it. I would give this to the teacher and it would be my paper.

I will tell you more about my life in another blog.  There is a lot to tell you. I travel all around the country to speak at conferences about my life and how other kids can be included in their schools. I tell teachers and parents to help the kids have big dreams.

micahff@aol.com

www.throughthesamedoor.com

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Jan 31
Madison McKnight

Madison McKnight

Majoring in Early Childhood Education has provided me with many opportunities in which allowed me to broaden my horizons. However, I feel that the most beneficial experience I have had was when I worked at the RISE School of Stillwater. The RISE School is a preschool where children with disabilities attend school with children who do not have disabilities. I did a field experience there and it has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my college career. The overall lesson I took from working at the RISE School was the importance of inclusion in the classroom. Inclusion, to me, means involving every child in every aspect of learning that is provided in the classroom no matter what the subject matter or content area. Never have I seen a better job example of this than at the RISE School.

Throughout the day at RISE, children participate in breakfast, music therapy, centers, art, circle time, outside play, and lunch. Every child is given the same amount of attention no matter what their physical or intellectual level may be. When I first started observing and working with the children I thought that this might hold back the children who do not have a disability but what I noticed is that it was actually helping them. Those children who did not need as much one-on-one help or guidance were helping those children that did. I noticed this especially during centers. The children would all be playing as if they were all the same person. The children could not tell a difference and I believe this is because the faculty and staff at the school did such an amazing job with inclusion.

Along with doing group activities, the children were all taught self help skills. Every 3- and 4-year-old needs help learning how to wash their hands, throw their trash away, and take their plates to the sink. The teachers in the classroom spent time with each child showing and guiding them along throughout their daily activities. Each child got a turn during meals or snacks to help pass food out and during circle time, each child got a turn to do the activity. Inclusion, such as that demonstrated by the RISE School, is missing out of so many schools today. I saw the importance of including every child in every lesson and in the 14 weeks I was there I could visibly see a difference in the children with disabilities. They liked being challenged and were learning and growing from it. Include every child in your lessons, you could be the guidance and support they need.

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Jan 21
Deborah Conn

Deborah Conn

I must admit, a smile literally spread across my face as I watched six small groups of early care and education workshop participants from Santa Barbara County, California talking animatedly and quickly filling flip charts with lists of ideas. Their task was to brainstorm the benefits of inclusion for children with special needs and their families, children without special needs and their families, program staff, and the community. I was smiling because this was such a stark and wonderful contrast to the first time I’d led the same activity twenty years earlier in the same building. Even then, people could think of a few reasons why inclusion benefited children with disabilities, but it was hard for them to come up with ideas on how inclusion benefited others. And, sadly, there were a few then who actually verbalized that children with disabilities had no place in a preschool classroom with children who were typically developing.

A common theme that ran through these small groups today was “respecting and celebrating differences” – not just accepting or tolerating differences. The groups concluded, independently, that adults who grew up prior to special education legislation and the Americans with Disabilities Act were learning to value inclusion from their own preschool children. Just a few of the many other benefits noted from the various groups were: learning to work together to accomplish a goal, mastering skills by helping peers, gaining leadership skills, feeling less isolated, learning new information and skills, increasing awareness, becoming valued members of the community, being able to stay in and contribute to a community (rather than having to move elsewhere to find inclusive settings), learning adaptations that help all children, and improving honest communication.

I recently took the opportunity to talk with some Head Start teachers about how inclusion has benefited them personally. Michelle Valencia shared, “Having children with special needs in my classroom really helped my confidence and has made me a better teacher for all children.” Michelle explained that she has now taught a number of children with significant disabilities and that her successes working with them helped her become more outgoing. In fact, she has even done presentations with her program’s disabilities coordinator. I visited Michelle’s classroom recently and saw first-hand the confidence that she talked about as she worked with a very diverse and lively group of children, including a little girl with spina bifida, who was fully included in all the activities that were going on.

In another classroom I visited, Mary Flores, a center director, talked about the positive changes that she has seen in adult family members of the children without disabilities. Three preschoolers who have significant visual impairments and two children with Down syndrome are enrolled in her center. A few parents expressed concerns at the beginning of the school year about whether their own children would get enough attention and whether the curriculum would be “watered down.” Mary proudly reported that the families soon saw that curriculum is easily adapted and individualized so that all the children can participate. These same parents have told Mary that their own children have become more helpful to others in general and more empathetic since being in the program. A couple of the concerned family members are now volunteering at the center and work with all the children. In fact, one mother wants to go to school to become a special education teacher.

Although work still needs to be done to educate teachers, administrators, legislators, and the community on the benefits of inclusion, and there are surely battles that still need to be fought until all children with disabilities and their families are fully included in our schools and communities, it is heart warming to see how many people today are demonstrating that inclusion works but that everyone benefits from inclusion.

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